Understanding what’s behind my feelings:
Sometimes, it’s hard to say what causes anxiety or anxiety-related feelings. In our last post, we discussed defining and adopting different vocabulary for what we may be experiencing. I’ve listed a few personal things that have influenced how I feel and react to everyday situations.
People’s perceptions:
Worrying about what others think of me, and how I’m perceived by others
Other people’s perceptions are not constant and not always reliable. One learns that ‘First impressions’ are not always factual; people can get things wrong.
You’re own perceptions
My personal view of myself, my values and what I truly believe about myself. What I think about myself impacts my confidence
Showing up for yourself as you would a friend may encourage self-compassion, self-acceptance and self-worth.
Pursuing self-development and reading offers many benefits for self-esteem and revalidation of personal values. Renewing one’s self-perception through reading, journaling, and praying can help one’s well-being.
Recommended Books:
“Why Has Nobody Told Me This?” by Dr Julie Smith.
“Coach Yourself Confident” by Julie Smith
Change and transition
Venturing out into new things can cause feelings of nervousness or apprehension to surface:
For example, a change in employment or relationship status can sometimes impact areas of one’s life, such as organisation and time management.
Prepare for change before it occurs. But when it comes unexpectedly, take a breath, give yourself the space to process it, and write things down. It’s ok to create a vision board mid-year and re-evaluate your situation.
Conflict and disagreements
Conflicts and disagreements can impact how you see yourself, others and your current season
Slow down conflict before it escalates. If a conflict occurs, consider getting fresh air, drinking cool water, or running a bath, and allow yourself a few minutes to step away from the situation.
Social Isolation
Even unintentional social isolation can cause feelings of anxiety or apprehension. I personally favour working from my computer and doing online courses
However, going for a walk, a gentle run or going outside the garden can give the mind a break from technology and feelings of isolation. Texting a friend or calling a family member can be a gradual step towards reconnecting with others.
Dear readers, I hope you found (part 2) beneficial in understanding possible causes of feelings of anxiety.
Enjoy your day,
LookafterU4me
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